Thursday, May 09, 2013

Accepting the Fact

My father's best friend died last May 1.

Nobody saw it coming. He was even being prepped to run as Mayor at his hometown for the next election (2016). Yes, he may be diabetic but he was very active. He rode his bicycle daily, even going to our house for an early morning coffee with my Dad.

When my parents heard the news, I thought it was just a prank. A lot of their friends thought so too when they spread the news. It was really unbelievable.

But that's just how life is. At some point, death is waiting for us. Nobody lives forever. We have to accept that fact.

I sincerely hope my Dad won't get depressed. He has been leaning on Uncle Ferdie's friendship for so long. They started as batchmates in the Army. They've witnessed each other lives: settling down, building a family, having other jobs, through every ups and downs.

At Uncle Ferdie's house was where my Dad spent most his day. After bringing Mom to school, he goes there to drink coffee and chat with Uncle Ferdie. Whenever he got bored at home, which he usually does since he's alone during daytime, he goes to Uncle Ferdie's house.

Now, he has nowhere to go to. When asked what he'll do, "Sa balay lang, ako lang isa." (Just stay at home, be alone)

Unfortunately, my Dad won't be able to attend Uncle Ferdie's funeral tomorrow. My parents were scheduled to go back to Iligan on May 12th. He jokingly said to a friend, why didn't Uncle Ferdie wait for him, knowing they will arrive on the 12th?

Death is always hard to deal with. Whether we are prepared for that or not, it still leaves a dent in our hearts.

To Uncle Ferdie, you will be missed.

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Breastfeeding Is Still Best For Babies

There's one thing I've discovered these past two months, exclusive breastfeeding is a lot of sacrifice.

I thought it would be just giving milk whenever your little one asks for it. What I haven't counted on was that during the first few weeks, since milk is not that much yet, Zach (my newborn) asks for it every so often. So I found myself lying on the bed the whole day.

But it doesn't stop there. It can't be helped that I have to go on errands so I have to find a way to store milk. I wake up in the middle of the night to pump milk and have it stored but even this is not enough to provide exclusive breastfeeding. There are times that I get too tired from lack of sleep so I don't have the energy to get up.  I have no choice but to supplement Zach with powdered milk.

This usually leaves me little time for my eldest, Zeke. Good thing, he's independent and doesn't mind doing things on his own. I'm also grateful he helps me take care of Zach - fetching things here and there and stuff.

But my time is not for my kids alone. I have a household to attend to. I have a husband whom also needs attention (even if he denies it LOL!). I have family and friends that I also have need to meet, as well. And last but not the least, I need a "me" time.

All these, moms tend to forego for the benefit of giving the best nutrition. Imagine moms giving almost 2 years of their life just for their baby's needs.

I have trouble imagining myself going through all of these but I strive to. Not only it is beneficial for my baby but it also helps our finances. I was able to do away with almost Php1000 worth of powdered milk a week because of the milk I provide.

I am at awe and inspired by these moms. I bet they go through depression or isolation - being kept in the house (or just between house and work) almost all the time. I did; unable to do things I normally would have done or have time of my own.

I remember a friend taking care of a newborn and her toddler without household help. And here I was complaining despite with two helps to assist me. Salute, Mav!

I give kudos to the moms who truly sacrificed a lot for their kids. And because of this, I have come to appreciate my mom more than I ever did. Thanks, Mommy!

P.S. There's no discounting the dads' assistance to moms. It's just a matter of fact that in rearing a child, especially when taking care of newborns, a mom tends to do most of the work. It's also unfair to the dads since they only have 7 days of paternal leave and have to attend to their day job. Our social benefit in the Philippines *shrugs*